Macaroni cheese and chocolate fudge cupcakes

Today has been a very good day, especially food wise.

I spent this afternoon baking chocolate fudge cupcakes and the kitchen smelled wonderful. S was very happy because she loves chocolate cupcakes and she just kept hanging around the kitchen like a kid. I even let her lick the spoon haha

And then this evening I made macaroni cheese. My own special recipe using mustard, bacon and tomatoes. J loves it and was literally poking me while it was cooking, asking how long it was going to take. Then the poking lead to tickling and S joined in and really they were lucky dinner didn’t get burned😉

I thought though that I would share my recipe because I’m nice like that and everyone deserves to try it because it’s amazing!

<b>Macaroni Cheese with Bacon and Tomatoes</b>

<i>Ingredients</i>
240g elbow macaroni
100g smoked bacon lardons
2 onions, peeled and finely diced
2 tomatoes, chopped
2 cloves garlic, peeled and finely diced
40g butter
40g flour
1/2 teaspoon Dijon Mustard
450ml milk
150g grated mature Cheddar cheese (plus extra for the topping)
salt and pepper to taste

<i>Directions</i>
Pre-heat oven to 200C/400F/Gas mark 6.
Boil macaroni in salted water and drain. Add cold water and drain again. Set to one side
Add the bacon lardons, onion, tomatoes and garlic to a frying pan and sauté over a medium heat until the bacon is crisp and the tomatoes and onions are cooked.
Add the bacon, tomato and onion mix to the cooked macaroni and mix well. Spoon the macaroni and bacon mixture into a buttered oven proof dish.
To make the sauce: melt the butter then add the flour and mustard powder and mix well. Add the milk gradually, beating well, and then simmer over a low heat until you have a thick sauce. Add the grated Cheddar cheese and mix until melted, then season to taste with salt and pepper.
Pour the sauce over the macaroni mixture, scatter some extra grated cheese over the top and bake in pre-heated oven for 15 to 20 minutes until golden brown and bubbling.

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Routine

I like routines. I like having a structure to my day – especially my morning – and it helps me stop from getting too distracted by everything around me. Not completely but it definitely helps me. I have it written down in my bujo too, each day, and being able to tick each thing off gives me a sense of success. I also find that writing it out each day really solidifies what I’m doing.

I tried using Habitica but remembering to actually log into the website was much harder than having a notebook out on the table all the time.

It’s taken me a while but I’m really pleased with the one I’ve got and it works for me. Of course, some days it doesn’t for various reasons but because I’ve got it all written down, I can always go back to my checklist and see where I am. I’m usually pretty good at figuring out what I’m doing based on clues around me.

Before bed I lay out what clothes I’m going to wear tomorrow, I make sure my phone is charging, my keys etc are on the table (same goes for J’s and S’s) and that I’m in bed with enough time to fall asleep to sleep well.

In the morning, I like to be up and showered before J&S – stops me getting distracted wanting to clean up the bathroom, tidy up after J etc. I dress and take my meds and I’m down in the kitchen and I’ve fed the dog and cats and I’m having breakfast before J&S start getting ready and we’re not all in each others way.
I’d like to try and work in some exercise or some meditation time into the routine but I’m so used to how my mornings go that I don’t want to risk it. I do have ‘go for a walk’ in my afternoon schedule once everything’s done around the house so it’s not like I’m not getting things done.

I like having a routine because starting the day of getting things done kind of sets me up for the rest of the day – like a forward momentum of productivity. If that mkes sense. Maybe to some people doing the same tasks in the same order may seem boring but to me? It’s kind of soothing

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Beef Stew

I wish you guys could smell my kitchen right now, or anywhere in my house because it’s mouthwatering. I’ve had a beef stew in the oven for the last couple of hours, it’s still got about an hour to go. The cats and dog are both sitting staring through the kitchen door and I’m half surprised that J isnt sitting there with them too

He keeps telling us how good it smells and how hungry it’s making him. I swear if he doesn’t let up, S is gonna spank him one haha

Mind, he was nicely Dominant this morning. They both were. But that’s a different story that has nothing to do with my beef stew.

It’s a pretty simple dish, not much prep… just a nice, long, slow, cooking process.
You start with softening some celery, some onion, bay and thyme in butter and vegetable oil. Stir in some flour, some tomato puree, beef stock cubes and (my secret ingredient) worcestershire sauce.
Gradually stir in boiling water, and the stewing beef and bring to a gentle simmer
Cover and pop in the oven (gas mark 3) for 2 and a half hours.
I’ve just taken off the lid and put it back in the oven – in about 45 minutes to an hour the beef will be really tender and sauce will be thick and it will be perfect.

Until then, I catch up on another episode of Frequency on Netflix

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Tachwedd

Welcome to November, friends!

It’s one of my favourite months of the year – and not just because my birthday is this month. Although, yes, that does help. It’s also my mum’s birthday

I just love autumn and November really embodies it for me.

I love looking outside and the leaves are all yellow and orange and red – it’s so pretty! And I’m a big kid and love crunching crispy leaves underfoot
I love the weather turning colder, being able to wear big warm sweaters and jeans and boots, hats and gloves and scarves
I love dark evenings snuggled up on the couch in front of the fireplace with J & S and the cats and the dog.
I love that it’s the sort of weather where I can make stews and casseroles, drink steaming mugs of apple tea or hot chocolate.
I love Bonfire Night. I adore firework displays

And did I metion that I have a birthday? LOL

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How A Relationship works

Someone on a different social media site asked me the other day ‘how does your relationship work’ and I was completely stumped. How do you answer that question? My reply at the time was a smart-ass ‘same as any two-person monogamous relationship, just that there’s three of us’

But I’ve been thinking about that question a lot and how to answer it.

The number one thing? Love. Between all of us, all three of us and all three two-somes. J&S have their night on a Tuesday when I’m at support group meet, I spent Thursdays with S when she’s not teaching and Saturday has always been me and J’s time together. We have a weekly date night on a Friday when we all go out – usually a meal and a movie and Sunday afternoons is always family time.

Honesty – and communication. Kind of obvious, I would have thought. But it goes without saying, there’s no lies between us, no secrets. No saying “It’s fine” or “I’m OK” when that’s not the truth. We talk everything out. Cliche as it may be, never go to bed on an argument or angry.
And arguments do happen, sometimes big and sometimes small. We’re all only people after all.

No intentional comparison of the past or talking about Ex’s unless we have to. J’s ex-wife is still on the peripheral of our lives through their son, and C is part of our lives so yes, his mum gets brought up in conversation. And yes, S gets jealous at times but she doesn’t lie about it – J and his ex shared something that J&S don’t. Again it’s down to honesty and communication and considering other peoples feelings.

There’s a very important word. Sorry. And meaning it when you say it. And saying it when you mean it.

We’re all very affectionate. And, really, is there anything better than being cuddled up with two pretty damn hot people? Kisses and cuddles and sex are definitely still part of our lives.

Now, if we’re talking about how the… other part of our relationship works – that’s a whole lot simpler. S is Dominant, J’s a switch (probably about 70% sub/30% Dom) and I’m a sub. Most of the time, we’re both submitting to S… sometimes I’m submitting to J too – sometimes just J. We have our likes and dislikes and they all mostly gel nicely together. We’ve been doing this long enough after all heh
We don’t just have kinky sex though – regular vanilla sex is just as much fun.

There’s more to it than just that but that’s kind of the basics of it. Surely the same can be said for most healthy relationships?

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Fear Of Clowns

I’m pleased to report my ankle is healed and I’m back on my feet. I’ve spent a lot of time cuddled up with the cats and watching some of the new TV shows that have started this season. There’s quite a few really good ones that have got me all excited!🙂

I think Frequency, Lethal Weapon and The Exorcist are among my favourites. And, as much as I really hate to admit it? I’m really enjoying the new MacGyver. S wanted to watch it to see how they weave the science and engineering into the storyline and I ended up watching it and… yeah, it’s ok. That kid is no Richard Dean Anderson and it’s not my MacyGyver but it’s watchable.

But that’s not what I opened up this ‘post an entry’ to talk about. It was either going to start with that or planwithme videos on Youtube because I’ve also been spending a lot of time playing catchup on those. They’re so relaxing. It’s not my style of planning, I tried it and it doesn’t work for me. I’m definitely sticking with my bujo but there’s something calming and relaxing and hynotic about watching people plan their weeks out and putting down stickers. I don’t know how or why but it is!

I’m going as off topic as a MacGyver voiceover here – stop me if I start telling tales about my grandather! LOL

I actually wanted to talk about something I don’t understand. Clowns. Or, why people are scared of them. I don’t get it. I don’t get it at all. It’s just a guy in some face paint, a wig, some colourful clothing and big shoes. They’re supposed to be funny – has no-one ever been to a circus and watched their routines? Or been squirted in the face with water from a plastic flower?
It’s all just basic slapstick comedy

Maybe it’s the fact my brain is wired differently from ‘normal’ but I really don’t associate them with fear but with laughter. I get that there’s scary clowns in horror movies but… those aren’t real. They’re stories. They’re fictional.

And I thought I was the one with the tenuous grip on reality…

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A little self-care

I have an ouchie. I’ve no idea how I’ve done it* but I’ve sprained my ankle – not badly just enough that it’s aching and I can’t put enough weight on it. Spent a couple of hours in A&E this morning, got it x-rayed to check it wasn’t broken. They’ve strapped it up, given me some painkillers and instructed me to rest it for a few days.

Which is how I’m sitting on the couch with my foot up on a stool. S made us a roast chicken dinner with all the trimmings which was delicious. And now we’re all curled up on the couch, with mugs of tea, under nice warm blankets with purring cats (and Odin flopped down over J’s feet) and we’re trying out some of the new season tv shows.

Some are hits, some are misses but it’s fun and it’s one of my favourite ways to spend time. Of course, S got all cranky with some of the science of time travel in Timeless. Although we do all agree that Hayley Atwell has amazing ass and tits in Conviction.

So yes, despite my ankle hurting, I’m focusing on the positive. I’m warm, I’m comfy, I’m snuggled up under blankets with the people I love, I have apple and cinnamon tea and I’m spending an afternoon watching TV… what’s not to enjoy about that?

* Actually, I know exactly what I’ve done to it. J’s got himself all interested in predicament bondage…and this is not a complaint because that is just fun! But when we were playing this morning, I wobbled a little too much and went over on my ankle. Oops!

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